The Pursuit of Happiness

"The pursuit of happiness" on which our country was founded is flawed and actually selfish. We are applying the pursuit of happiness across the board to all aspects of life particularly in relationships and it does not apply there. Relationships are necessary in order for individuals to collectively thrive in society. Pursuing happiness with a person automatically creates the premise that you are looking for something FROM that person rather than what you can do FOR that person. If the basic mentality of a relationship was what can I do FOR you and all parties understand that, then there would be more respect (which is love), honesty (which is love), cooperation (which is love) and yes "happiness" in the world. In the "pursuit of happiness" as soon as the initial excitement of a relationship or thing wears off (and it will) one will no longer be "happy" and it is certainly not the thing's fault nor is it the person's. It is yours because you are still looking for them or it to "provide" you with something they can not give and do not have to give and that is YOUR contentment and your peace which is rooted in love. They may have their peace and their self love but they do not have yours. People can absolutely piss you the @#%!! off but you can be content enough in your self to correct them or remove them and move on. But the question is why do people piss us us off really? Is it because they are pursing their happiness/well being etc. at the expense of ours? I think so, yes. Racism is about the pursuit of my happiness over yours. Sexism is about the pursuit of my happiness over yours. Adultery, thievery etc. and the list goes on. Even in oversight we human beings often slip into selfishness/self preservation at the expense of others. Life and liberty are rights given to us by God but the "pursuit of happiness" ironically interferes with universal life and liberty and can cause us to tread down many dangerous roads that can lead to self destruction and the destruction of others. We have a president who is being attacked because he wants to provide for those who are unable, for whatever reason, to provide health care for themselves. When all are whole are we not ALL whole? And if we are not all whole then we are not whole. If one truly wants to pursue happiness then what we should actually pursue is love. Love God. Love yourself. Love others like you love yourself. Love God because God is love and He can teach you what love is and how to love ... yourself. Love yourself so that you can be whole and complete inside and be able to love the unlovable which will sometimes be... yourself. Love others so that love can spread, grow and come back to you through others. If we love only those who love us how are we different from anyone else? Pursue love and selfishness will die allowing all of our selves to live... and love.